12/16/13 “Tim”
22
Our
churches have many visitors during the holidays, many of whom are only there
out of obligation to family members.
That was the case with a young man I’ll call Tim, 22, who was sitting
alone after church while people were in conversation all around him. He didn’t look too happy, so after the usual
pleasantries I asked directly, “So what do you think of all this? How would you describe your relationship with
God?” “You don’t want to know. I’m not even sure I believe in God”. Tim has attended church all his life with his
family and was baptized at age 17, but is now away in the military and is seriously
questioning his faith. “What would you
say are some of your biggest questions?” I asked. “Well, first, I’m not going to let the fear
of hell scare me into accepting God. And
I’m not about to believe in a God who has to threaten me to get me to believe in
Him”. I could relate. For years I felt I was somehow “above”
fearing God, and believed I had a right relationship with Him only because of
His love and my response to it. To speak
of His wrath and the idea of hell was revolting to me, and it is still not
something I enjoy speaking of, writing about, or even being associated
with. It is not, in fact, intended to be
a topic for polite conversation, but just ignoring it won’t make it go
away. Besides the sheer horror involved,
I believe the topic of hell is also repulsive for the same reason that the
cross is repulsive – it reminds us that as good as we want to believe ourselves
to be, there is something so horrible about us and our sin that it can only
result in one of these two outcomes. It’s
a gospel truth that is hard to fathom so it is often ignored. I suspect that is what happened in Tim’s
church experience. When the hard
doctrines of the faith are ignored or sugarcoated, it leaves the impression
that we are free to reject God without consequence or to “accept” Him only on
our own terms. But God is a “consuming
fire” – not only because of His love, but also because of His justice. Focusing on one of these attributes while
ignoring the other leads to the cheap religion people can and should reject. So I didn’t hold back on sharing these truths
with Tim. There are those who would
disagree with this; they would say that relationship should trump truth, that a
visitor to church should not hear hard truths like this, that we will scare
people away. But if our goal is not just
relationships, but right relationships based on the truths of the Bible, then
these are truths that we simply can’t ignore.
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