6/10/16 Steve, Lex,
Shaun
about 45, 22, 28
I was looking to initiate Gospel conversations, so I
walked into a Starbucks. I saw too guys
at opposite corners of a big table, working intently on laptops, one with big
old-fashioned headphones on. I asked the
other guy if I may bother him with an unusual question, “What happens after we
die?” His name is Lex and he said he is
a Christian, but went into a long explanation about all the alternative non-Christian
possibilities, I guess to show me he has an open mind.
After ten minutes Lex was joined by Steve, whom I found
out is a pastor at his large non-denominational church. I explained what I was doing, and that when I
meet believers I love to hear their stories of how they came to faith. Steve told of hearing a visiting evangelist
in his youth who scared him with God’s wrath over his sin, which led to his
faith in Christ. Lex grew up in a
Christian household, but went on and on about his present concern over the
issue of homosexuality and his concern that he not be seen as a homophobic
Christian.
I asked them both how they share their faith. Steve said he prefers to follow the Spirit’s
lead, which usually means he waits a long time in a new relationship before
discussing spiritual things. He believes
his childhood church was too focused on God’s wrath and condemnation rather
than His love and grace. He was very concerned that he not scare unbelievers
away from God so that he can eventually win them over to faith.
Steve had to leave Lex and I about this time, and as
soon as he left the other guy at the table, Shaun, the one with the big
headphones, broke into our conversation.
He had been listening all along.
He grew up Buddhist but was recruited into a Christian church by some high
school friends. He left, however, after
he came out there as gay and didn’t feel totally accepted.
Now he has returned to a more Buddhist approach to
spirituality in which he denies God and absolute truth and sees life as
circular rather than linear. He congratulated Lex for his questions and
concern about not offending gay people as a Christian. Though he claims an open mind, he went on to strongly
expound his beliefs as established fact.
So should have followed Steve’s advice and wait weeks
and months to share the Gospel until the Spirit leads? Should I take Lex’s approach and just accept
Shaun’s assertions without any sort of pushback? Fortunately, since Shaun had forced his way
into the conversation I felt every right to question him, and I did. It was a long conversation, and I had no need
to focus on the homosexual issue. Bottom
line, 1.) Were he to discover that God actually does exist, Shaun would reject
any possibility of obedience or devotion to God, and 2.) He really never understood
the Christian faith he has rejected. He
had become involved in his former church because of the relationship with his
friends and it seemed cool at the time, not because he knew he was a sinner in
need of salvation. He had been reached
out to through relationship, and when those relationships were strained because
of his homosexuality, he had abandoned ship.
I believe Shaun needed to hear the Gospel clearly,
both the bad news of our sin and condemnation and the good news of God’s love
and mercy. He needed to hear from
someone willing to risk relationship and rejection in order to share the Gospel,
and that’s what I gave him. It wasn’t
what he wanted to hear, but he listened, and so did Lex. 2 Timothy 4 says “Tell everyone God’s
message. Be ready at all times to do whatever is needed. Tell people what they
need to do, tell them when they are doing wrong, and encourage them. Do this
with great patience and careful teaching.”
(ERV) Did I follow Pastor Steve’s
advice to wait to share the Gospel until led by the Spirit? I believe I did.
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