I pray that you may be active in sharing your faith, so that you will have a full understanding of every good thing we have in Christ. Philemon 1:6
FRONT PAGE - here you will find the last 7 postings about recent conversations. Please pray for these people! If you scroll down below them you will find a variety of evangelism advice and ideas.
On my way home from work today I stopped for some groceries. Wherever there are people there are opportunities to share the Gospel so I struck up a conversation with another shopper named Calvin. He was more than happy to vent his frustrations with the hypocrisy and injustice he sees in our government, capitalism, church, and God Himself, saying that he can't believe in a God who would let the world get into the horrible state it is in. He reminded me of some of the "Occupy" protestors I've seen on TV. We had a long, interesting discussion right there in the frozen foods aisle. Calvin grew up in a southside Chicago housing project and, beginning with his grandmother's Baptist church, has a history of moving from one church to another. However because of the hypocracy he says he found, he now claims he can't believe in God. What could I tell Calvin that he hasn't heard before? Calvin believes strongly in his own sense of right and wrong, so I asked how he measures up according to his own standard. Asking about specific sins such as lying helped him to see he is guilty of the same wrongs he judges in others. I asked how the world would be if people obeyed their God-given conscience. "Can we really blame God for allowing the world to be in this state, or should we take responsibility for it ourselves?" We didn't solve the world's problems in the 20 minutes or so that we talked, but I pray this conversation might have helped Calvin to stop blaming them on God.
Jesus told his followers they would be fishers of men so Joe, a church brother, and I went out on a "streetfishing" expedition. We met a man named Hajee (not sure of spelling) as he headed into a store, and asked if he had a minute to talk about his beliefs. Hajee is from Lebanon and is a Druze, a mideast religion with close ties to Islam. He believes in reincarnation for those who aren't ready for heaven, and that all people will eventually go to heaven after a succesion of lives. We heard a lot more of his beliefs, many of which are obviously in opposition to biblical Christianity. It might have been tempting to point out our differences immediately, but we were looking for a conversation, not a confrontation. Our respect and willingness to listen gave Hajee the willingness to listen to the basics of the Gospel in return. When we went our separate ways, Joe and I prayed that Hajee will respond to the biblical truths he heard.
On my way home from work today I stopped at a park where I met a serious looking older teen on his way to the basketball courts. I asked if he had a minute to answer an interesting question - "What do you think happens after we step off this earth - what happens next after this life?" He - Vince - looked at me and broke into a big smile - "I don't know but that's just what I was thinking about before you asked me" he said. I found out Vince has no religious background and hasn't read any of the Bible, but he is definitely interested in spiritual things. The problem is he gets his information from YouTube and sensationalist TV shows. He also told about different personal experiences with ghosts or spiritual apparitions of some sort. He feels that if he was judged he would have to stay here in the middle, joining these spirits, because he feels he is neither good enough for heaven or bad enough for hell. I spent some time explaining biblical truths, and Vince was very interested but due to a short attention span and various friends walking by distracting him we only talked about 20 minutes. He was glad to get more info - please pray against everything that will try to distract him from reading it.
Today I went with Micah (from church) to witness at a nearby college campus. In the student center we met Alfred, a graduate student from France who agreed to talk about his beliefs. Alfred's grandparents were Catholic and he had nominal involvement in their church, but he decided early that God doesn't exist because of all the evil in the world and, as Alfred put it, "God never did anything good for me". We talked for awhile about reasons for belief in God, and then about the implications if God does, indeed, exist. Much of our conversation focused on the sources of evil in the world and in our own hearts. Alfred said several times that he gets disgusted not just by the bad behavior of others but in himself. He could see that he can't even keep his own standards which, according to the Bible, comes from his God-given conscience. He agreed that though he knows better, his selfish desires often keep him from doing the right thing. He was beginning to see the connection between our own immoral choices and the problems in the world around us that he had blamed God for, and he was slowly taking responsibility for his sin. There was so much more I wanted to tell him - especially about Jesus - but I didn't want to mistake intellectual progress about biblical truths for spiritual progress such as conviction and repentence of sin. Alfred had already heard more than he could comprehend with his atheistic world view, and he had much to think about. I gave him a good book and my contact info should he want to talk further.
I went on a witnessing walk with Brad from church, and we came across an IIT student out for a smoke in front of one of their Greek fraternities. He was open to answering some questions so I began by asking if he had any belief in a future existance of any sort after his life on earth is over. He - Ed - is a chemical engineering student and explained that although he grew up in a culturally Buddhist household he doesn't have any belief in a life to come or in a creator God, since they can't be proven scientifically. He liked the idea of "spirit guides" who lead one through life, but this seemed to be more of a whimsical thought inconsistent with his previous claim of commitment to science. It was cold out and I knew we didn't have time to talk for very long, so rather than go through some of the logical arguments for God's existence, I simply explained the Christian view of God as both our creator and final judge who will hold us accountable for our actions in this life. Ed was open to this possibility, though obviously very non-commital, so I just asked how he thought he would measure up to such a judgment. I used some of the Ten Commandments as a standard for comparison to help Ed see the personal nature of his sin, and even without believing in the authority of the Bible Ed could see he had failed to keep even his own standards according to his conscience. This was a lot to take in for a young guy who was just out for a smoke, being exposed to a world view entirely different from his own and I felt it important to end the conversation before wearing out our welcome. I believe Brad and I may have been part of Ed's first exposure to bibllical truths, and hope we won't be the last.
A young man at Burger King agreed to answer some questions about his spiritual beliefs, and I soon found that he - Sam - has rejected any sort of organized religion or faith in favor of science and reason. His main reason for rejecting God, though, was that he can't understand how a loving God would allow the poverty, injustice, and cruelty he sees in the world. We talked about this a while and one point I made seemed to get him thinking - that ultimately God must have decided in His infinite wisdom that somehow giving man free will is worth all the trouble. Being the rebel that he is Sam could hardly disagree that we shouldn't have free will, but he found it hard to believe that we humans would have enough wickedness in our hearts that we would turn against each other the way we do - but he couldn't deny the evidence in the world around us. I explained how the original temptation of Adam and Eve was not just the forbidden fruit but to "be like God" (Gen 3:5) At first Sam disagreed that it would be a problem for everyone to be their own God - but as we talked he could see where that would lead - selfishness, greed, poverty, famine, war - the very things he had blamed God for in the first place. "So you see, there's only room for one God" was my conclusion. We talked quite a while, and I could see he was really thinking it all through. I'd like to say my logical explanations won Sam over to faith, but I know better. Even though I do believe in man's free will on some level, in the end God is still sovereign. Sam will only believe if God reveals the truth to him (Luke 10:21) Please pray that He does.
On my way home from church today I stopped at a McDonald's hoping to share the Gospel. I found an African-American man dressed in a suit, looking like he had either just come from church himself or was a businessman. He - Ken - was willing to answer my questions so I sat down to talk. As it turned out he is a bodyguard by trade and had an appointment to keep, but he had 10 or 15 minutes to talk. Ken said he believes in God and a God-given purpose in life - "to make the best use of one's gifts and talents" - but he doesn't believe in heaven or hell. He thinks that one's soul goes on to influence the lives of others, particularly ones descendants. He believes that very little of what the Bible says is true, because there are so many different denominations within Christianity. He said he doesn't believe that the idea of being accountable to God on judgment day is even possible, yet he believes in those things that all major religions share in common. Where does one go with a conversation like this? I knew my time was limited, so I just touched on a few things Ken didn't seem to have thought of, like the exclusive claims of Christ to be God; the predictions of Christ about many false teachers; the desire of God to make His will known for all to see in the Bible. Finally I asked if, even though he doesn't believe it, does he have at least a basic understanding of the Bible's message? "Do you have any idea why this man who was hung on a cross 2000 years ago would have anything to do with us today?" I asked. This started a good discussion, but, unfortunately, Ken had to get to his appointment. I gave him a booklet about that very topic, and, hopefully, I also stirred up the curiosity he will need to read it.
On my way home from church today I stopped at a McDonald's hoping to share the Gospel. I found an African-American man dressed in a suit, looking like he had either just come from church himself or was a businessman. He - Ken - was willing to answer my questions so I sat down to talk. As it turned out he is a bodyguard by trade and had an appointment to keep, but he had 10 or 15 minutes to talk. Ken said he believes in God and a God-given purpose in life - "to make the best use of one's gifts and talents" - but he doesn't believe in heaven or hell. He thinks that one's soul goes on to influence the lives of others, particularly ones descendants. He believes that very little of what the Bible says is true, because there are so many different denominations within Christianity. He said he doesn't believe that the idea of being accountable to God on judgment day is even possible, yet he believes in those things that all major religions share in common. Where does one go with a conversation like this? I knew my time was limited, so I just touched on a few things Ken didn't seem to have thought of, like the exclusive claims of Christ to be God; the predictions of Christ about many false teachers; and the desire of God to make His will known for all to see in the Bible. Finally I asked if, even though he doesn't believe it, does he have at least a basic understanding of the Bible's message? "Do you have any idea why this man who was hung on a cross 2000 years ago would have anything to do with us today?" I asked. This started a good discussion, but, unfortunately, Ken had to get to his appointment. I gave him a booklet about that very topic, and, hopefully, I also stirred up the curiosity he will need to read it.
WITNESSING THOUGHTS AND IDEAS
Scroll down for the following articles: (color coded)
Law and Grace: A Biblical Correction to Traditional Evangelism (1/25/10) (This is long. Scroll way down for the rest)
Marketplace Evangelism (1/8/10 - revised 11/10)
A Good Question (on additional info) (1/07/10)
A Thought About Evangelism and Discipleship 12/17/09
Why Everyday Evangelism? 12/22/09
My New Excuse 12/11/09
Top Ten Reasons For setting an Everyday Goal 10/09
Benefits / Drawbacks of different Conversation Starters 10/09
These Should Be Frequently Asked Questions 10/09
Basic Tips For Marketplace (not workplace) Witnessing 1/10
Law and Grace:
A Biblical Correction to Traditional Evangelism 1/25/10
(long article - scroll down past black ink for next article)
GOOD NEWS!
for Growing Christians
As a Christian it is only natural that you want to share the good news of Jesus. The Holy Spirit who is sealed within you (Eph. 4:30) compels you to do so, not just out of obedience to the Lord but also out of love for the lost. Like Paul who said "Woe to me if I do not preach the gospel!" (1 Cor. 9:16) it is also natural that you will get impatient in waiting for those Spirit-led opportunities that may seem to come your way only rarely.
Well I have good news for you! Since the Holy Spirit lives within you, those "Spirit-led opportunities" can and should come from within you too! Just like Paul as he reasoned "in the marketplace day by day with those who happened to be there" (Acts 17:17) it is both spiritual and biblical to take the initiative when it comes to sharing the good news of salvation with the lost.
GOOD NEWS?
However, if the gospel is indeed "good news", why then can it be so intimidating to share it? The truth is that the good news of salvation through faith in Christ makes no sense without the bad news that we are condemned without Him - and who wants to share bad news? It can be tempting, then, to leave out the bad news and only share the good, but this presents a distorted understanding of the gospel that can have dangerous consequences.
Jesus described the problem perfectly in Matthew 7:6 - "Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and then turn and tear you to pieces." Our sacred, precious Pearl of Great Price is none other than Christ crucified, and of course you and I hate to see the world try to trample him under their feet, not appreciating who he is and what he has done. Why? It's simple. They don't appreciate the Savior because they don't know they need saving. Many who do "accept Jesus" often feel like they are doing him a favor!
After hundreds of conversations with people in the marketplace, I have seen that most people - including "church people" - believe that if there is a heaven, they are good enough to go there. And who dares tell them otherwise? For the past century, the focus of preaching and evangelism have been on the "good news" of the cross and salvation, with little attention paid to the "bad news" of our sin, judgment, and the punishment of hell. Because God's holiness and our sin and rebellion against Him are trivialized, hell is seen as an unreasonable punishment that few need worry about. For many, Jesus has become an optional accessory, an opportunity for life enhancement rather than our only hope of salvation.
Yet Jesus said that "wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it." (Matt. 7:13-14) In fact, although Jesus preached more about hell than he did about heaven, warnings about the just punishment for our sin have become strangely unfashionable in the past century or so. Or, the occasional fire and brimstone preacher may use the threat of hell as a manipulative tool, often for personal gain, but fails to convince his listeners that our loving God also loves justice and will indeed punish unrepentant and unforgiven sinners.
"Okay, let me get this straight - I need to tell people they are sinners and will be punished in hell? You've got to be kidding!" My answer? No, I'm not kidding, and yes, you do need to tell them the truth about sin and hell. But you can do it without a judgmental attitude, in a way that will show them that hell is a reasonable punishment. Instead of pointing fingers, you can ask a few simple questions to help them understand where they stand with God and what the consequences are. Let people judge themselves, but make sure it is by God's standard, not the worlds. This will be easier than you think because all have His standard written on their hearts, they all have the knowledge of good and evil. I can't tell you how many people, strangers to me just minutes before, have openly admitted to me that they are liars, thieves, blasphemers, and adulterers and murderers at heart. How? Do as Jesus did!
WHAT DID JESUS DO?
Are you a good person? The rich young man who came to Jesus thought he was. He asked how he could inherit eternal life, expecting praise and commendation. Instead Jesus gave him the law: "You know the commandments: 'Do not murder, do not commit adultery, do not steal, do not give false testimony, do not defraud, honor your father and mother.' " (Mark 10:17-27) This young man proudly claimed to have kept them all, so Jesus went to the heart of this man's sin: his wealth was more important to him than God, breaking the1rst and 2nd commandments. Jesus could have said "all have sinned" (Romans 3:23) but then this man would have found safety in numbers. Instead Jesus personalized his sin, making him see himself as he really was before a holy God: a lawbreaker deserving God's wrath. And how did the man react? He was silenced by the law just as Paul described: "Now we know that whatever the law says, it says to those who are under the law, so that every mouth may be silenced and the whole world held accountable to God." (Romans 3:19) What do people do after the law silences their excuses and self-justification? Some leave, like the rich young man, but most stay to listen. They hope there is more to the story. They heard the bad news, now they want to hear the good news. We must make use of the law as it is intended to be used: "So the law was put in charge to lead us to Christ that we might be justified by faith." (Galations 3:23)
I have been surprised to find out how many people are willing to tell their beliefs to a stranger in answer to good questions. This can begin interesting conversations with people in all walks of life with many different beliefs without needing to judge or point a finger at them. Why? In part I know I am winning the right to be heard by listening. I also know that after I ask just a few questions about how well they have kept God's law - or even their own standard of right and wrong - they will usually be silenced by their conscience and much more able and ready to listen.
I used to try to convince people that their life will be better with Jesus in it, feeling like a used car salesman in the process. I was "throwing my pearls to the pigs", trying to convince them they needed something they didn't even want. Now, the law leads to grace, and it is a wonderful privilege to share the good news of Jesus with hearts hungry to receive it. Most people are thankful for the conversation, and no matter where they are spiritually, whether they are a prodigal, a seeker, a beginning believer or even those advanced in faith, they all can benefit when we plant a seed of truth that God brings growth to. Though we must be careful to avoid giving false assurance of salvation, we can encourage those who come to repentance and faith to verbally confess Jesus as their Lord and point them to various scriptures that assure salvation and encourage local church involvement.
WHAT'S IN IT FOR ME?
What kind of a question is that? A very good one, because there is a very good answer! Paul, who knew by experience, wrote "I pray that you may be active in sharing your faith, so that you will have a full understanding of every good thing we have in Christ." (Philemon 1:6)
Just as the law is the "missing link" of modern evangelism, I believe initiative evangelism is the missing link in the contemporary church. Learning by doing was at the heart of Jesus' discipleship program as He sent out his disciples to witness in pairs. Worship becomes more sincere when you know you will boldly proclaim the same truths to a lost world. Bible study is taken seriously when you know you are preparing for spiritual warfare. Prayer becomes fervent when you know you fully intend to follow it up with action. Fellowship becomes sweet between comrades on a mission. Your theology will be sharpened as all your shallow presumptions are challenged.
RESOURCES
If you've read this far, you must care about reaching out to the lost, but do you care enough to do something about it? It may sound scary and overwhelming but after setting a goal of witnessing every day I can say this; it does get much easier and you will definitely improve with practice! Here are two excellent "law and grace" evangelistic resources to get you started:
· "One Thing You Can't Do In Heaven" by Mark Cahill
· "Way of the Master" by Ray Comfort
Marketplace Evangelism 1/8/10
A Good Question... 1/7/10
"I was reading your blog just now, and I notice you always say you leave additional info with them. I was curious what you give them, so maybe I could do the same."I usually give the "Why Christianity?" if they are still wondering what Christianity is about or how it is different from other religions, or "Save Yourself some Pain" if they are Christians who need to grow or even an unbeliever who is close to putting their faith in Christ, with an explanation that I realize they have not taken that step yet but if they do, this explains where to go from there. I get these from the Living Waters website store.
A Thought about Evangelism and Discipleship... 12/16/09
Jesus said to "Go into all the world and make disciples..." (Matthew 28) He didn't say to just make "converts" only but to make "disciples" which implies that evangelism must be followed up with discipleship. However it seems to me that we American Christians have got it all backwards. We expect the world to come to us, either to our entertainment oriented churches or we wait until people ask us personally about our faith, ("They should know I'm a Christian, after all, I do have a Christian bumper sticker on my car!") but then we often chase after them to hound them about their response and growth in the faith. Instead, we are to go into the world, taking the initiative in sharing the gospel, allowing people to respond as the Lord leads and according to His timing, and helping those with genuine repentance and faith into a nurturing church body. They will be looking for ways to grow in God, while those who responded only superficially (prayed a prayer, signed a decision card, raised their hand, came forward to an altar, grew up in a Christian home, etc.) will continue to ignore or run from truth and from the people and things of God.
Why Everyday Evangelism? 12/22/09
Why set an everyday evangelism goal? For me, evangelism is like jumping into cold water. When I am dry and comfortable, it can be the last thing I want to do. I stall and find excuses because I don't want to get out of my comfort zone. But once I jump in my heart starts pumping and I become alive in a way that makes me ready and willing to swim and splash and jump in again and again. In the same way, evangelism is relatively easy once one gets started. After the first leap into the "cold water" of a spiritual conversation with someone new, the next few contacts become exponentially easier to make. Anyone who has gone out witnessing as a group project for a set amount of time has experienced this. But the problem with this is that our goal as Christians should be to "do the work of an evangelist, in season and out of season". We want to be tools in the hands of the Holy Spirit, ready at a moments notice to do the work that He wants us to do. We have to be ready to make that leap out of our comfort zone and into the cold waters of evangelism whenever an unexpected situation or opportunity comes up. It needs to naturally be a part of who we are as followers of Jesus. And just as we have to set unnatural goals of prayer and Bible reading to make them become a natural part of our everyday life, we need to set unnatural goals in evangelism as well, goals that will take us out of our comfort zone on a regular basis and help evangelism also become a natural part of our life in Christ.
I would also add here that to me there is a big difference between a "goal" and a "commitment". A commitment to me is more like a promise I make to God, and it becomes too easy to try to keep this commitment without God's help which leads to either unneeded feelings of failure and guilt or pride and legalism. A goal to me is something I decide I want to do with God's help, and it draws me nearer to the Lord as I constantly ask for help in reaching my goal. It takes the guilt out of failure and the pride out of success, and replaces them with joy in the Lord.
My New Excuse 12/11/09
I have been initiating Gospel conversations with random people for over a year now, and the irrational "fear of man" is finally starting to disappear. But something else is in me to take its place: laziness. These conversations and the spiritual battles underlying them can be intense and it takes a lot of mental energy to get out of my comfort zone. It is so much easier to be complacent and lazy, but I believe selfish pride is at the root of that laziness. I am the Lord's unworthy servant; who am I to put myself first and take it easy rather than obey His commandments? At the end of his parable of the field worker, Jesus says in Luke 17:10: "So you also, when you have done everything you were told to do, should say, 'We are unworthy servants; we have only done our duty.' "
Evangelism requires discipline. No matter how much we may believe in it or how good we are at it, it is valuable only if we actually do it. I ask you, do you believe it is important to obey God's command to share your faith? If no, why not? If yes, what will you do about it? Are you a doer of the word and not a hearer only? Faith without works is dead according to James. A fisherman shouldn't just go to fishing shows and buy fancy equipment and subscribe to fishing magazines and wear fishing clothes with fishing slogans and join fishing clubs and listen to fishing music - he needs to put his hook in the water! And so do we if we are to be "fishers of men" as Jesus commands. Our "Christian" subculture is starting to look more and more ridiculous to me the more I realize how far we fall short of what God intends for us.
Please know this: I am still very committed to a balanced life in Christ, including my family and church involvement and discipleship and concern for the poor and oppressed. I just feel that the lack of emphasis on biblical evangelism is a huge void in the American church - and is closely related to an easy believism with its false assurance of salvation.
I admire Mark Cahill for his insistence on being a doer of the word. In his book "One Thing You Can't Do in Heaven" he asks a revealing question: How often would you begin an evangelistic conversation if you were paid $100 for each one? Should this question even have to be asked? Should God have to pay us to obey Him? (Some might ask "What is a human soul worth" but I won't go there. We are only seed planters. Saving souls is God's business.)
According to Hebrews, faith is what pleases God. Faith is believing in what you cannot see. It always involves some sort of risk, stepping out of your comfort zone in some way like Peter did when he stepped out of the boat and walked on water. Wherever you are at in your faith, to please God you must take the next step out of the boat and out of your comfort zone. There are so many different levels of witnessing involvement, tagging along with a more experienced Christian, giving out tracts, using tracts to start conversations, talking with neighbors, and so on. I have just begun and have much more to learn about it. Like anything, it takes practice. I wish I had known of the biblical approach of "law to the proud, grace to the humble" years ago. I have been "spinning my tires" for years with other modern and unbiblical evangelistic approaches. Please don't make the same mistakes I have...
Top Ten List: Reasons for Setting an Everyday Evangelism Goal October, 2009
Reason #10. It gives me more of a reason to get up in the morning and I go to bed at night knowing that my day counted for eternity.
Reason #9. It becomes part of my everyday thoughts, and I am more open to the witnessing opportunities all around me.
Reason #8. It keeps my irrational fears from building up during long periods of time before the next outreach effort.
Reason #7. Others see my faith as more authentic when it is part of my everyday life rather than a special “project”.
Reason #6. My daily goal helps keep evangelism in its place as just one part of a healthy Christian lifestyle.
Reason #5. Other social situations that used to cause me anxiety now seem like no big deal in comparison.
Reason #4. It turns my boring and mundane errands into a challenge and an adventure!
Reason #3. It gives life to my faith and relationship with God on a daily basis.
Reason #2. It is a discipline that keeps me humble and dependant on the Lord.
And, of course
REASON #1. JESUS SAID "Follow me, and I will make you fishers of men"
Benefits / Drawbacks of Different Conversation Starters:
1) Million dollar bill tract (or other good tracts)
· Even if the conversation is cut short, people are left with something to read later on.
· I can almost always begin a conversation with a laugh or a smile.
· Tracts can help identify me and give me credibility as an evangelist, especially with those who are suspicious of why I want to talk with them.
· However, tracts can also take away my credibility as a Christian because some people will put me in the same category as other evangelists who may have been ignorant or ungodly or even cults like the Jehovah's Witnesses or Mormons.
· Tracts can help quickly get to the heart of the issue using the question on the back - "Will you go to heaven"?
· Tracts are good for shorter conversations like in a crowd or at a bus stop where time may be limited.
· Million Dollar Bill tracts are available for purchase from http://www.livingwaters.com/ - usually $5/100
More benefits / drawbacks of different conversation starters:
2.) Informal interview (or just asking an interesting question)
· Beginning with questions about what others believe shows that I'm not preaching at them but listening to them.
· I avoid getting lumped into a negative category before people realize I truly do care about them.
· People can’t just give me the answers they might think I want to hear because they don't know me.
· Beginning with what others believe usually leads to a longer and more personal conversation.
· However, it can take more time to start a conversation as people try to figure out my motives.
· This is best used with people and situations where there is more time to talk. However, if a person is truly interested, they will stop what they are doing to continue the conversation so we shouldn't always rule out people who look too busy.
Still more benefits / drawbacks of different conversation starters:
3.) Informal conversation - friendship evangelism
· Using a natural conversation and transitioning to a spiritual one seems more natural and less confrontational. However, natural conversations tend to wander from one subject to another and it becomes very unnatural and manipulative when you try to force the conversation back into a spiritual direction. It is very hard to hide one's spiritual agenda in a conversation (and dishonest) so why not be open and honest about it from the start?
· How long do we need to wait before we have "earned the right to be heard?" The more we invest in a relationship the more we have to lose, and the harder it becomes to talk about our beliefs.
· Unbelievers think logically too based on what they know or believe to be true. They might think something like this: "If you as a believer truly believe that my eternal salvation is at stake (whether it is true or not) and tomorrow is not promised, why would you wait another minute? I might conclude either that you don't care about me or you don't believe it yourself."
· We don't have to choose one over the other. We need both. I began to witness to strangers so that I would be better able to share my faith with those I know and love, and I find that I am now better at both - "in season and out of season". More on "friendship evangelism" from Tony Miano at The Lawman Chronicles
FAQ’s
(actually, they haven't been asked of me frequently, but they should be)
The best place I know of for more in-depth answers to these questions is Ray Comfort's book "The Way of the Master". However, here are some short answers off the top of my head...
1. You don’t seem to be winning many people to the Lord. Is this a waste of time?
I definitely see my role as "planting seeds" rather than winning souls. "The wind blows wherever it pleases. You hear its sound, but you cannot tell where it comes from or where it is going. So it is with everyone born of the Spirit". (John 3:8) It is the Holy Spirit who brings spiritual rebirth, and I am just honored that I could play a role in the process. Because of this I don't feel the need to make any emotional appeals or use any sort of manipulation. I can just obediently share what the Bible says and relax and pray that God will do the work of heart transformation that only He can do.
2. "Do you lead anyone in a “sinners prayer” and assure them that they are saved?"
Leading someone in a "sinners prayer" could very easily be a form of manipulation. If they are truly experiencing rebirth and the deep conviction and repentance that comes with it, they won't have to be led in prayer, they will know what to say to God. If they want help I may try to help them understand what an appropriate response would be to the awesomeness and holiness of who God is and what He has done in their life, but the response needs to be their own. The worst thing I could do is assure a person of their salvation when in fact they aren't really saved, and there is no way for me to know. I do tell others that they need to test themselves to see if they are in the faith, and the fruits of repentance will be evidence of a truly saving faith.
3. "Do you follow up with these people?"
I give those who seem interested a personal summary of the Gospel along with my cell phone number, my e-mail address, and my church address and website. Out of several hundred of these given out, no one has ever contacted me, which surprises and saddens me. I'm not quite sure what to think about it. My guess is that, regardless of my friendly and conversational approach, anyone who evangelizes like this in our culture is seen as an extremist (though biblically this is simply what we as Christians are expected to do) and if a seeker wants to learn more there are usually "safer" Christians in their life to talk to. I give them my info and don't ask for theirs in return to emphasize that it is their responsibility to respond. I am dedicated to follow-up and discipleship within my local church, and for me to chase after people who show initial interest would severely take away from the time I spend in both street evangelism and church discipleship.
4. Statistics show that few people in our culture are led to Christ by direct evangelism. Shouldn’t you focus on building relationships?
I believe that so few people have come to faith in Christ through direct evangelism in our culture not because it is ineffective, but because relatively few people are doing it. Even if no one is blessed by my efforts, I myself have grown so much in my faith and ability to share my faith that it is totally worth it to me. The people I know and love and am in an ongoing relationship also benefit from my efforts at evangelizing strangers because I've become better able to clearly explain the Gospel to everyone.
5. "What do you do when people bring up intellectual arguments like evolution or refer to other religions?"
I have studied these areas a lot and am able to bring a lot of sense to a conversation about them. I talk about them for a while depending on the circumstances because I want people to know we don't have to live in denial of these issues. However, most people use these arguments as a smokescreen to cover up their pride and love of sin, and when I ask if they would be found to be a "good person" if there is indeed a Judgment Day these intellectual arguments usually become unimportant. What is more important to most people is that they want to keep their "trump card" - their idea that they are a good person worthy of heaven - just in case they find out in the end that there IS a God and the Bible IS true.
Basic Tips for the Marketplace (not the workplace)
Here are some basic tips about starting conversations while shopping or at coffee shops or fast food restaurants:
The million dollar tracts make great conversation starters. As you walk around the grocery store pushing your cart, have a bundle of them in your hand, maybe with your shopping list. It helps to have them already out and ready to give to someone rather than having to fumble around in your pocket, missing the moment as a shopper walks by. Start to hand a few out without worrying about getting into a long conversation. Make direct eye contact, give them a big smile, say " excuse me" so there is no doubt you are addressing them, and say "I have something for you" or ask "Did you get one of these?" When they see that you have many of them in your hand, they will know that you aren't "singling them out" for some reason, this is just something you give to everyone. If they refuse to take one you can show them the stack and say "It's okay, I have tons of these". You might want to avoid a long line of people because people can be like sheep - they follow the leader and if the first person rejects the tract, the rest often do and that can really take the wind out of your sails. Don't let fear cause you to give in to the temptation to just place tracts where people might find them rather than handing them directly to people - these two activities require a completely different mindset and your goal here is to initiate a conversation. After you have given out a few of these you will find that it is much easier to talk to your fellow shoppers. Try to begin having longer conversations with people as you go. Move from just hoping they will take it to encouraging them to read it. Then try telling them about it and encourage them to read it. Finally, ask if they consider themselves to be a good person and begin a conversation. And here's something good to know - legally you don't have to actually shop for groceries to push a cart around the store! Pushing a cart lets you blend in with the rest of the shoppers and gives you the freedom to collect your wits and pray while you push the cart around the store. And don't wait for a sudden rush of boldness from the Holy Spirit like the disciples received on the Day of Pentecost - God has already given you everything you need to step out of your comfort zone by faith.
There are two things I do to get past the awkward first moments of a conversation where the person is most likely to reject talking with me. If I am using a million dollar bill tract, after a quick laugh about how they might spend it, how its a great collector's item - whatever - and before they start to walk away, I point out the question on the back about heaven, tell them there is a "good person test" and ask "are you a good person"? This way the first question isn't "do I want to talk about this" but "am I a good person" and the conversation has begun.
If I am just asking a person sitting somewhere or who otherwise looks like they have a little more time, I don't use a million dollar tract as a conversation starter. Instead I might say "Excuse me, I'm wondering if you might have a few minutes to answer some opinion questions." They might ask "what about?" or they might not, but either way I try to say something like "it's about your spiritual beliefs, like do you believe in a higher power?" I say these things together, quickly, because again, this bypasses the first question of whether they want to have this conversation and puts the focus on the second, so the conversation is more likely to start from there.
Either way, once the conversation starts I try to ask a lot of questions about the persons background and current beliefs. This shows that I care about them, helps me understand what I should emphasize when witnessing to them, and wins the right to be heard. Most people like to talk about themselves so if they have time they are willing to answer these questions. The majority of people I talk to are glad to talk once we get past those first few awkward moments and I believe most would agree that it was okay for me to be a bit pushy at first.